Note to God

Laziness takes root in someone who has no clear direction in life, or who, having such a direction, doesn’t walk that way.  “ Don’t confuse serenity with being lazy or careless, with putting off decisions or deferring the study of important matters.”[9] Concentrating on matters that need our attention, confronting something that requires a bit of effort, not leaving for later what we can do now —on these habits one can readily build an agile, strong and serene personality

The modern man suffers; 1. They forget about heaven 2. They avoid suffering  3. They forgot about God 4. Loss of sense of sin 5. Relativism 

We need carry the environment within ourselves, and not be influenced by the surrounding environment.  Spiritual life isn't I don't want to win , but to desire God as my last end. Interior life isn't a self help programme, a battle of ourselves. No. It's a battle against the Evil one. We seek help from the angels, spiritual beings, to protect us.

The formation that the Work gives to its members is to give them a supernatural outlook in the fulfillment of their apostolic mission, since they know they in prescribing their professional, social and economic duties, they ought to obtain their own sanctity and those around him.

How much spiritual calories we need in order to feed others! 

1. Building interior order, realigning priorities.  2. Use this retreat to have Graces for the next 12 months - Matthew 5 on beatitude, Matthew 25 on last judgement, 1 Cor 30 on charity, Rom 12 on danger of worldliness, Rom 8 on divine filiation, letter of James  1 Cor 16: 13 - be watchful, stay firm in your faith, be courageous, stay strong. > To be on guard, to guard my heart, to guard my norms (against frivolities, against excessiveness of others - how we want to prolong our enjoyment, our friend catch up, from 1h to 2h..) 1 Cor 16:14 - let all you do be done in love. My life to is love my wife.. How much I have failed in this...  3. Weak daily examination of conscience > Consider the beatitudes > Matthew 5 on beatitude, Matthew 25 on last judgement, 1 Cor 30 on charity, Rom 12 on danger of worldliness, Rom 8 on divine filiation, letter of James  Wife - job, family, husband, grow more iny family life  > Pray with her, one memore, or one hail Mary ...

Not everyone who says to me Lord , Lord, will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of my father in heaven.  Mt 7:21 How to know we are doing God will, not our own? 1. Be a soul of prayer 2. Live in state of grace 3. Be docile to the holy spirit voice in your soul Without prayer, without personal friendship with Jesus, without a deep and sincere examination of consc, without spiritual guidance, it's impossible to follow god's will.

We are experts in this! 5th anniversary of Amoris Laetitia. To talk about good. There is always some good to talk to people who doesn't even want our help. We need to be familiar with the irregular family situation. We cannot be so easy with our time. We are husbands, fathers. Yet, we need to have the art of knowing how to decline without making another feel bad.

A simple person tempers one's words and angry reaction. He says things in a positive way and never thinks he is always right.  He knows how to apologise and make amends. He does not take himself too seriously and always esteem the good points of other people. It's an essential characteristic of a truly human family. 

Don't get angry when your pride is attacked, get angry when a principle is at stake. Never fight when you get attacked, but fight when truth is at stake. Jesus didn't take anything personally, not even on the cross. Meekness is not to lose your coolheadness. It's to stay calm in the face of adversity. During the passion, everyone was amok, except our lord. He was the only meek one. To have "ice in my veins", the coolness, the steadiness.    

The biggest fruit of OD is the personal friendship we have made with other around us. It's not just a strategy of apostolate; it's a basic human need. Without friendship, you cannot be fully human being.  The cult of hokkien mee - friends jioing each other.

A disorderly person not only waste precious time but it's himself a liability at work and a nuisance to others. We have to much of a just-in-time mindset, we forget the virtue of early. We forget that there is much value in being early: we can settle in, we can sense the environment, transform the environment first with our presence, form friendships. But when you're just-in-time, you forsake these. You no longer need a storage space. You no longer have a space.  Tardiness reflects not only a disordered life, but a kind of rudeness, laziness, and self-indulgence. Serving meals on time, having laughter ready when people need them, returning item back in the proper places, coming home on time, not allowing others to wait up A daily schedule that is well thought out, putting Jesus in. A wise and experienced priest once say: he can tell the state of a person's soul by looking inside once closet . 

Marriage: A Path to Sanctity by Javier Abad and Eugenio Fenoy - rich in practica tips, points for considerations when giving circles Jesus as Friends by Salvatore Canals - topic of humility and meekness

Means to know how to take discomfort or annoyance, with a cheerful and good humoured attitude as much as possible. It's normal to have had misunderstanding and difficult moments in marriage, that's why we need to take it in our stride . To have Jesus cross (not ours) in them. Sometimes it may mean interrupting your work or changing plans , when circumstances are necessary and above all, when the just and rightful needs of others are involved.

You are a squanderer of tenderness. And I tell you: charity towards your neighbour — yes, always. But — listen to me, apostolic soul — from Christ and for him alone is that other feeling which God himself has placed in your heart. Besides, isn't it a fact that the drawing back of any one of the bolts of your heart — and it needs seven of them -  has more than once left a cloud of doubt floating on your supernatural horizon..., and, tormented in spite of the purity of your intentions, you asked yourself: haven't I perhaps gone too far in my outward show of affection?

The mind is the battlefield of the heart. All sins start with a thought.  To have one foot in the conquest is to attack the strategy officer. To conquer the mind is had the foot in the conquest. Fill the mind with good thoughts, not lustful or angry thoughts. Fill the mind Beyond mindfulness, our mind should be de-centering, He increase, I decrease.

Married couples need to bear in mind 2 things to achieve maximum perfection in love: 1. Be ready to give without expecting anything in return 2. Learn to fall in love again ************** From a letter by Tertullian, an Early Church Father, to his wife, ca. 202 AD, illustrating the great esteem for the sacrament of holy marriage in the days of the early Catholic Church. H ow beautiful, then, the marriage of two Christians, two who are one in hope, one in desire, one in the way of life they follow, one in the religion they practice. They are as brother and sister, both servants of the same Master. Nothing divides them, either in flesh or in Spirit. They are in very truth, two in one flesh; and where there is but one flesh there is also but one spirit. They pray together, they worship together, they fast together; instructing one another, encouraging one another, strengthening one another. Side by side they face difficulties and persecution, share their consolations. They have no secrets...

Mortify each and every of the sense, surrendering them to love. Sight. Why look around if you truly carry 'the world' within you? Train the senses, train the spiritual muscles, if not it will become flabby, and when big temptation arise, you will fall.  Little things that won't harm your health but will keep you on fire. Motive for mortification? Atonement, reparation, petition, Thanksgiving, as a means of progress: for you, for me, for the family, for the country, for the church..and thousands more.

Routine is like the devil itself, we need to avoid at all costs. How to combat routine? Piety. It's a gift of the spirit, to feel and to see Jesus in them.

The supernatural virtue of naturalness. It's a contradiction, how natural can be supernatural. Naturalness is seeing commonplace event as part of God's hand and plan. We need to have the virtue of naturalness, that in ordinary things, in our relationships with our wife, our fiancée, our friends, our work and our activities encompass God's presence in them. It's recognising God's presence in the naturalness of life, and being fully active in the naturalness of life.  It's the taste of salt in salt, the brightness of a light. Salt has to be seasoned, if not it's useless. Your inner baptismal light need to shine, if not, it's useless.  Not about "being religious", but about being natural, not in the ostentatiousness but in the ordinariness. Christian ordinariness is a mustard seed, that the supernatural life grows within us, that put forth roots, branches, leaves, flowers and finally fruits. The naturalness of the supernatural.  Naturalness is oft...

Sometimes, what is preventing us from growing isn't a thick cord, but a thin thread.

From time to time, my prayer should arise some resolutions. It's a sign that your prayer is going well.  If it's always about interiority, then prayer isn't always bearing fruit.

Hope is not optimism, it is not the ability to look at the bright side of things and move forward”, nor is it merely a positive attitude. “This is all good, but it is not hope”. “Hope,” he said, “is the most humble of the three theological virtues, for it hides itself in this life” . Pope Francis continued: “hope is a risky virtue; as St Paul says, it is a virtue of eager longing for the revelation of the Son of God... hope means striving toward this revelation, toward this joy that will fill our mouths with laughter and our tongues with shouts of joy ”, like the Israelites when the Lord delivered them from slavery and restored to them the fortunes of Zion (cf. Ps 126: 1-2). “This is a beautiful image!” he exclaimed. Pope Francis then set forth two images, two icons for hope: the anchor and the pangs of childbirth. “The first Christians depicted hope as an anchor . Hope was an anchor” fixed to the shores beyond. “But where are we anchored” the Pontiff asked? Addressing those who were...

Vocation to marriage consists in becoming more in love with his wife each day; and that’s something I have never forgotten. One has to be always on the frontline of love!’ That is what I have tried to do—always be on the lookout for ways to surprise your mother, and love her more every day.

“No one shall separate me from the love of Christ”. He loved the Lord so much — for he had seen Him, he had found Him, the Lord had changed his life — he so loved Him that he said that nothing could separate him from Him. The Lord’s love was the very heart and centre of Paul’s life. Despite persecution, illness, betrayal, everything that he experienced, even all the things that happened to him during his life, none of them could separate him from the love of Christ. This was the very centre of Paul’s life, the touchstone . The love of Christ. And we cannot be Christian without Christ’s love, without living in this love, without acknowledging it, without nourishing ourselves on this love: the Christian is the one who knows that the Lord is looking upon him with that very beautiful gaze, he knows that the Lord loves him and loves him to the very end. He knows and feels it ... The Christian knows that his life has been saved through the blood of Christ. And this is what love does: it cr...

St Josemaria: it gives efficiency in spiritual life.  Should be concrete..  Should not examine on things that have been going well for months.. Examine the right things and not taken any actions... Resolution! If not, it will be the fall of the Sony Walkman, or the Nokia phone  No particular formula, but sth that help us progress. Particular examination!!

How is your intimacy with Christ? The recollection precisely builds that intimacy with Christ, with time spent dedicated to him, and in a space that is dedicated to him, in His presence. In the recollection of Opus Dei, you enter in that tent, where your presence become enveloped in His.  Every monthly, you do that, you go for the recollection, I can assure you, your intimacy with Christ will lead you to a fueling to continue that in your daily activities and daily prayer.

The path to happiness: forgive, forgive yourself  and forget... By Javier Vidal-Quadras To 'purify the memory' is a felicitous expression of the theologian Jutta Burggraf and is a fundamental process in the quest for happiness. A poor memory can be a good ally of happiness, especially if one forgets negative memories; although this is not easy, as negative events often have more impact than positive ones. Memory is a Human Faculty that is, in Some Respects, Uncontrollable With training it is possible to increase the capacity to remember, but it is more difficult to improve the capacity to forget. How useful it would be to be able to selectively erase from memory that which hurts, saddens, depresses, irritates or makes us angry! Were it not for the remembrance of offenses, there would be no need to forgive, nor would we experience a thirst for revenge. If we could forget our major defects, impotence and weaknesses, if the humiliations of the past could but vanish, we would avoid...

Last week I had occasion to contemplate this more seriously while watching a televised debate on the future of marriage. A good friend of mine, Luis Carreras, was one of the participants. The scenario was tremendously revealing: some of the participants were delighted to have met each other, almost all of them lauding the virtues of a life centered on oneself , thinking of others as mere amusements for life’s more dull moments. One went so far as to say that he was very happy to live by himself and that all he wanted was an evening partner because the afternoon-evening period was his worst time and he welcomed a distraction then. He was, more or less, treating others like the diversion of a movie or a novel read before retiring for the night. Then a lady spoke, describing herself as a relational anarchist . She explained that, at each moment, she was weighing up which person or persons were useful to her as companions, lovers or whatever, one or several, simultaneously or successively,...

Take a nail for instance. If you meet no resistance when you hammer it into a wall, what can you expect to hang on it? Likewise, if we do not let God toughen us through sacrifice, we will never become our Lord's instruments. On the other hand, if we decide to accept difficulties gladly and make use of them for the love of God, then in the face of what is difficult and unpleasant, when things are hard and uncomfortable, we will be able to exclaim with the Apostles James and John: Possumus! Yes, we can!

The Cross is present in everything and it comes when one least expects it. But don't forget that normally, the Cross comes when you start to be effective

Personal holiness is not centred in the fight against sin but in love for Christ, who shows Himself to us as being truly human, fully aware of everything about us. 

Truth & Life RSV-CE 1 Corinthians 15:33 33 Do not be deceived: " Bad company ruins good morals." †

My bro, our Lord has seen you to be a diamond, not a pebble. He has taken his hands on you, he's cutting you up, to be a precious stone to be of real value and deep shine. For a pebble is not worked on like that. 

On buying a car when it was a trend But this was the time when the family’s expenses were at their highest, with several of the children being in college. She took up the matter with her father, and this, she says, is what happened: “He looked at me intently and said, as if he’d been thinking about it for a long time, ‘My daughter, never forget what I’m going to tell you: A fundamental thing in this life is to know your place.

Avoiding causing someone extra work; not making a request of someone strapped for time; leaving each room as one would like to find it; listening attentively to a story told several times already; telephoning someone who had left home that morning anxious about something; and accompanying a late arrival for a meal.

Christians who are content to remain on the guest list”. Unfortunately, he said, “being listed as a Christian is not enough... If you do not enter into the banquet, you are not a Christian; you will be on the list, but this does not help your salvation”. Pope Francis concluded his homily by exhorting those present to pray for the grace to understand “how beautiful it is to be invited to the banquet, how beautiful it is to share one's gifts with others, how beautiful it is to be with God” and to the contrary, what a pity it is “to vacillate between yes and no; to say yes, but to content ourselves” with only remaining on the guest list

 “When he finds us, when he has found the lost sheep” he neither sets it aside nor does he ask us: “Why did you get lost? Why did you fall?”. Rather, he restores what was lost to its proper place . And when this happens “it is God who rejoices. God rejoices not in the death of the sinner but rather that he be restored to life”.

All this obviously required balancing or sacrificing other things. She would have liked to paint (though she would dismiss any concern about that desire by saying, “Oh, I gave that up when I was very young”), but the opportunity never arose. She did manage to find time to read, and to go out with her friends; but always without neglecting the care of the family. That was at all times her prime interest as well as commitment.

“I remember,” writes Nieves, “that when my sister María Isabel was very young, she cried a lot—very often, and for no good reason. Something didn’t go her way, and the crying was out of all proportion. Somebody had to shake her to get her to stop. One of those times, some of us siblings were there, and she started crying, without rhyme or reason. My father slapped her. María Isabel was very startled—and I think all the rest of us were, too. She stopped, and started crying again, in a different way. My father told her that over that she could cry; but over nothing, no. From then on, the outbursts of crying ceased. That day my father was especially affectionate with her. I remember that he held her hand for a good while.” The episode was so exceptional that all the children remember it, and they all now joke about it—including its little protagonist, who today has a PhD from the Sorbonne. Thats the father, to cane, and to be affectionate. All our of love. Like our fathet God who at times...

Starring will smith, an extremely intelligent Nigerian doctor working as a pathologist in America, as a coroner, investigating cause of death. A devout Catholic. He begins by talking to the dead body, as a person, to show him and guide him, with fullness of dignity, he discovers the mystery of the body. The body is not made for football! The body is made for dancing.

I tell you most solemnly, unless a man is born through water and the Spirit, (To be born again through baptism and confirmation) he cannot enter the kingdom of God: what is born of the flesh is flesh; what is born of the Spirit is spirit. Do not be surprised when I say: You must be born from above. The wind blows wherever it pleases; you hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. That is how it is with all who are born of the Spirit.’ (Those who are born again, as Christians, are led by the Spirit. We can't see the spirit, but we can feel the effects, of the goodness of God through the actions of the Christians. And where do these actions come from? From the inspirations of the Spirit, inspirations we know not the time or space it comes, where it comes from or where it is going. But when it comes, a Christian is sensitive enough to listen, to abide and to act. It may come as an idea suddenly connected, or through a conversation with a friend, or t...

Meals were an important time in the Alvira family, for more reasons than the obvious ones. Something as simple as the seating at the table had its meaning. Marian writes, “I remember our family dinners as something invaluable. There were never any fixed places at the table, or special chairs for Papa and Mama . I remember putting up a fight because I preferred a certain place and someone else had beaten me to it. But we knew very well that there were no fixed places, everyone sat where they wanted. That, too, has given me throughout my life a very great sense of freedom—and I see it as one more little very instructive thing. You don’t own anything, not even a place . . . but at the same time, all of the places are yours .”

One saying of his that they especially took to heart was this: “Only in prayer, and through prayer, do we learn to serve others.3 Serving others is not easy, especially considering his definition of it: “generously placing our hearts on the ground . . . so that others may tread softly.”4 Sometimes he would add to that, “This is not just a metaphor; it has to be a reality!” Performing the household tasks, and taking care of the children, with a spirit of service, an attention to detail, and an effort to live in awareness of the presence of God—all of this provides me the opportunity to practice all the Christian virtues. The professional nature of my work as mother and housewife has also demanded of me that I keep improving so as to run my home with the greatest possible human perfection, not falling into routine.”

Misericordia - a heart for the afflicted To touch the wound of others. Because wounds signify humanity, and touching them builds the solidarity of humanity.  Not just a devotion or asking God mercy, but to answer God's call to mercy, to feel for others. Jesus I trust in you, that you will give me the grace to be merciful, more self giving and less oblivious to others.  The Spirit of Jesus Christ is the power of forgiveness. He is the power of Divine Mercy. He makes it possible to start all over again - ever anew. The friendship of Jesus Christ is the friendship of the One who makes us people who forgive, the One who also forgives us, raises us ceaselessly from our weakness and in this very way educates us, instils in us an awareness of the inner duty of love, of the duty to respond with our faithfulness to his trust. In the Gospel passage for today we also heard the story of the Apostle Thomas' encounter with the Risen Lord:  the Apostle is permitted to touch his wounds a...

In prayer, we are never alone : even if we do not think about it, we are immersed in a majestic river of invocations that precedes us and proceeds after us. A majestic river. Prayer is always born again : each time we join our hands and open our hearts to God, we find ourselves in the company of anonymous saints and recognized saints who pray with us and who intercede for us as older brothers and sisters who have preceded us on this same human adventure. There is no grief in the Church that is borne in solitude, there are no tears shed in oblivion, because everyone breaths and participates in one common grace. We can and should ask them to intercede for us and for the whole world” (CCC, 2683). There is a mysterious solidarity in Christ between those who have already passed to the other life and we pilgrims in this one: from Heaven, our beloved deceased continue to take care of us. They pray for us, and we pray for them and we pray with them. The first way to pray for someone is to spe...

The gift of tongues We need to groom our culture to reach those who have their own cultures. To present the culture that they can understand. Farmer ask St Josemaria, I don't go to university, I'm just a farmer. Can I join Opus Dei? St Josemaria said, my son, you and I are the same... To contribute your own grain of sand. Whatever your culture is or should be.  Make every of our life experiences count - put in in our talk and formation to others!

To allow knowledge to roll off the tongue. Ignorance of scripture is ignorance of Christ. We cannot have an interior discrepancy between our faith, our professional work and even our hobby. To build up our great reserve through spiritual reading.  Ngosticism - knowledge that saves. It isn't knowledge that save, but love. But love need knowledge to go deeper. The pace of spiritual reading - faster for those we know, slower if it's foreign territory.  All the spiritual readings we do help us to see the bigger puzzle.

Your vocation, the certainty that you are called by God, will always be the best shield against any temptation.  It is the surest and strongest guarantee that, if you wish, God will make you faithful, ever victorious, witnesses of Jesus Christ throughout the world, and abundantly fruitful in serving souls.

It's not just the absence of war, of conflict. It's about being at right with God. The right relationship with God and with others. Peace isn't unrest, peace is interior rest within oneself with God.  Not all peace is worthy of praise. Indifference isn't worthy of praise. Peace is the tranquility of Order, when all r/s is right with God and with men.  Peace to men of good will. When we are of good will, and good action, we are men of peace.  Blessed are the peacemaker for they are called sons of God. There is no peace in society because there is no peace in the hearts of men. Without peace in heart, there is no peace in family and no peace in society. The Christian faith gives peace, to conform to Christ and not to the world.. as Jesus desires forgiveness of Sins, not emabracign sins, and to truly love others and in the right way - these are hallmarks of peace . How much we need to apologise. That we do not conform to God but conform to the world.. and as a result of th...

We must try to be saints by waging war against ourselves.

Apostolic zeal is a divine madness I want you to have, and it has these symptoms: hunger to know the Master; constant concern for souls; perseverance that nothing can shake. The first characteristic of our zeal, our first concern, should be this:hunger to know the Master. It is the love for God within us which really attracts souls. Let us never forget this. Lord, make us crazy with a contagious craziness that will draw many to your apostolate. How easy it then becomes for those who know us to be moved to love God! Only in that way will you be vibrant with the vibrancy that the spirit of the Work demands, so that those who are in contact with you in your profession and in your social activity will often repeat the comment Cleophas and his companion made at Emmaus: Did not our hearts burn within us while he talked to us on the road? Then our constant concern for souls will keep us from wasting any opportunity that arises, since the time for souls will not wait. And when the opportunity...

Lord, with your grace, make me an apostle of apostles, to raise up from among me, many more apostles to spread your word and zeal of the holy spirit.

Consequently all our activity must have the apostolic purpose of winning all souls for Christ. If you pray for them, sacrifice yourself, carry out your plan of life, do your ordinary work well, and do it all with a smile... you are fulfilling the goal of Opus Dei. It is indeed true that our professional vocation is part of our divine vocation, but only insofar as it is a means for our apostolate and for our own sanctification. It is part of our divine vocation only if it is a means for serving God, for becoming saints and for sanctifying others. If our professional vocation were ever to become an obstacle, then it must be set aside because it would no longer be a means. If it is not a baited hook for catching fish, it is of no interest to me, nor is it a part of the divine vocation; it would no longer be a professional vocation but a diabolical vocation. As the Catechism of the Work puts it, each of us should be like a burning coal, continually setting fire to everything it touches, an...

I have come to cast fire upon the earth; and would that it were already kindled! Each member of the Work should be like a burning ember which sets alight or at least raises the spiritual temperature of everything around.  Our Father made a brief summary of this aspect of our identification with Christ:If we are other Christs, if we behave as children of God, wherever we may be we will set people on fire: Christ sets people ablaze.

A movie of childhood being robbed by sin, by perversion, by man. Of consequences in every action, no matter how unintentional the action may be. Of a priest who knew his sheep, and seek every sheep lost. Of a father who sees the good in his children, a defender of children, who goes to abusive father and tells him, that if he were to ever lay a finger on the child again, he will make sure he has the same fate as that beaten up child (he tells the dad, when I beat you, you won't be needing a doctor, you'll be needing a priest, who will pray with you at  your funeral... So I'll see you in church yes). One who isn't afraid to get his hands dirty to protect his loved ones. Of a father who gives preaching not at the pulpit but during the dribbling of the ball at a basketball match. Of a man who instills confidence, who is not afraid to say I'm scared more than you, but do not run, because when you run, you have to run for the rest of your life. Face the consequences, and...

Christ gives us his risen life, he rises in us. But we cannot forget the cross. He rises in us, if we become sharers in his Cross and his Death. We should love the Cross, self-sacrifice and mortification.  We always think of Christian optimism as  something sugary, or like a human optimism that things will "work out well".  No, my friends, Christian optimism has its deep roots in the awareness of freedom and faith in grace. It is an optimism which makes us be demanding with ourselves. It gets us to make a real effort to respond to God's call. Not so much despite our wretchedness but in some way through it, through our life as men of flesh and blood and dust, Christ is shown forth: in our effort to be better, to have a love which wants to be pure, to overcome our selfishness, to give ourselves fully to others - to turn our existence into a continuous service.

The light of Christ has conquered all darkness. Have no fear! For we have seen the great light. In thee do we hope!   No longer it is I who live, for I have been dead through sin, but it is Christ who lives in me.

This is my body. I have often helped you consider this marvellous reaction of human love: two people who love one another, when they have to part, exchange some photographs with a dedication so full of affection, so aflame, that it is almost a wonder that the words don't burn the paper. It's the same with Jesus, who loves us to the end: he has to go and, at the same time, he wants to stay. But what we are not able to do, God can do: he goes and he stays. He institutes the Holy Eucharist so that we may eat him, so that we will be strengthened, so that we will be faithful and come to perfect union with him ... Even though I have reminded you of the reasons why Jesus has wanted to remain among us, I can also say that I don't understand why he stayed, knowing how he was going to be treated: knowing not only that many tabernacles would be neglected, but also that there would be many people approaching him who do not know him, who do not love him or who ignore him, who do not app...

Contrition gives special strength to the soul; it restores hope, makes the Christian forget himself and draw close to God once more with a deeper act of love. Contrition proves the quality of interior life and always attracts God’s mercy; ... this is the man to whom I will look; he that is humble and contrite in spirit... (Is 66:2).

Do you fear your wife and love your wife? Just like do you fear God and love God?