Note to God

1. Home efficiency - it's not an accumulation of services - this happens when we see people as functions instead of persons - when militia overshadows family, it becomes effective but cold - high number of to-do lists could make us neglect marital friendship 2. The logic of Controlling situation  - excessively focus on controlling situations - too much focus on ideal homes - then neglecting the family-children ties, drive them up  3. Logic of merit Meriting and expecting appreciation and compensation - we should not be expecting compensation for loving our wife or children. Yes it's good to. But it shouldnt be a habit.  - develop feeling of not being appreciated and sacrifice isn't worth it.  - if we were expecting compensation, it's like the elder brother in prodigal son 4. Logic of sentiment  - we have a criteria of evaluate family life but looking at our sentiment. Does it make me feel good? - even though emotional well being is an indicator, it shouldnt be f...

The crisis of faith in our lives and in our societies also has to do with the eclipse of desire for God. It is related to a kind of slumbering of the spirit, to the habit of being content to live from day to day, without ever asking what God really wants from us. We peer over earthly maps, but forget to look up to heaven. We are sated with plenty of things, but fail to hunger for our absent desire for God. We are fixated on our own needs, on what we will eat and wear (cf.  Mt  6:25), even as we let the longing for greater things evaporate. And we find ourselves living in communities that crave everything, have everything, yet all too often feel nothing but emptiness in their hearts: closed communities of individuals, bishops, priests or consecrated men and women. Indeed the lack of desire leads only to sadness and indifference, to sad communities, sad priests or bishops. Let us look first to ourselves and ask: How is  the journey of my faith  going? This is a questio...

Try to help people not to do things that are wrong. Try to do things that are right. Happiness comes from doing things that are right. 

When F1 car change tire, guess how fast it takes to change? A team of 20 pit crew  2 seconds This is only possible when there is a common goal, a coordinated approach, tonnes of practice, motivated staff, everyone knows their roles and responsibilities 

As opposed to clericalism.  Lay mentality and priestly soul. Josemaria: To be like open air and running waters Clericalism - only interested in parish matters and gossip - to be religious politics Lay mentality: - We go by science and by fact, not because he's Catholic

1. Avoid Naked Intro - Can intro others by sharing their gift. "Xx is really talented in pottery".  - share where you're from with other info about history relevant to speaker -or adding what you did with him previously 2. Whassit? Have sth on to talk about it 3. Whozzat? Ask someone more about the guy and speak about it to the guy

The Evil tactics: 1. Don’t waste time trying to make him think that materialism is true! Make him think it is strong, or stark, or courageous—that it is the philosophy of the future. That’s the sort of thing he cares about. 2. Give man stream of immediate sense experiences. Your business is to fix his attention on the stream. Teach him to call it ‘real life’ and don’t let him ask what he means by ‘real’.

1. Eye contact staring into each other’s eyes can trick the brain into releasing phenylethylamine – a natural amphetamine and one of the brain chemicals that makes people fall in love. Try the following eye-contact exercise: 1 Attract your partner’s attention, either by calling his or her name or putting your hand on their shoulder. The second part is particularly effective as you can use gentle pressure to bring her or his head away from the computer screen, for example, and to look at you. 2 Wait until you have your partner’s full attention and he or she is looking into your eyes and wondering what is happening. 3 Look into their eyes. It does not need to be for more than a second – just long enough so you really see each other. 4 Give them a kiss on the lips. 5 Your partner will probably be suspicious and may ask something like, ‘What do you want?’ 6 Just smile and walk away. 7 Repeat the next day. If your partner asks about the kiss, don’t be defensive (‘Can’t I even ask for a ...

The crisis of faith in our lives and in our societies also has to do with the eclipse of desire for God. It is related to a kind of slumbering of the spirit, to the habit of being content to live from day to day, without ever asking what God really wants from us. We peer over earthly maps, but forget to look up to heaven. We are sated with plenty of things, but fail to hunger for our absent desire for God. We are fixated on our own needs, on what we will eat and wear (cf.  Mt  6:25), even as we let the longing for greater things evaporate. And we find ourselves living in communities that crave everything, have everything, yet all too often feel nothing but emptiness in their hearts: closed communities of individuals, bishops, priests or consecrated men and women. Indeed the lack of desire leads only to sadness and indifference, to sad communities, sad priests or bishops. Let us look first to ourselves and ask: How is  the journey of my faith  going? This is a questio...

Reading - can u remember what u read? I can't. But if you study, taking time to absorb, you can recall.  We need to squeeze our brain when we study, what we call brain strain.

Seek to love your wife as how God loves her