Note to God

What do we do when we have our crosses and sufferings? We usually tend to run away from them, or we hide them, unacknowledged, numbed, ignored. We overwhelm them with other good things and change our focus. We deprioritise the sufferings. We complain about them.  Is this called embracing the Cross?  If we say the Cross is our joy, then we need to face them head first, we need to acknowledge the suffering, tell Jesus I am with you through this suffering. I know you're accompanying me. And because you're with me, I shall not hide, not be afraid, I shall not be numbed. I shall not be distracted. I will reprioritise to find YOU in my suffering. I will offer to u Lord.  Make my struggle a blessed struggle Lord. May I see light at the end of it. And even if I don't, I see you. 

What do we do when we have our crosses and sufferings? We usually tend to run away from them, or we hide them, unacknowledged, numbed, ignored. We overwhelm them with other good things and change our focus. We deprioritise the sufferings. We complain about them.  Is this called embracing the Cross?  If we say the Cross is our joy, then we need to face them head first, we need to acknowledge the suffering, tell Jesus I am with you through this suffering. I know you're accompanying me. And because you're with me, I shall not hide, not be afraid, I shall not be numbed. I shall not be distracted. I will reprioritise to find YOU in my suffering. I will offer to u Lord. 

Having left everything in God's hands, our concern is only for sanctity and apostolate, the spreading of Christ's kingdom. In order to maintain these intentions in our heart, we need to detach it totally from earthly goods. We must therefore love poverty and show it in countless ways in our daily lives: by fleeing from excessive comfort, or the tendency to get by with the minimum effort; by choosing the worst for ourselves; by taking care of the things we use in our work; and by giving up anything we feel our heart becoming tied to.

7 secret of happy marriage - article Parents need to be parents...and as best friends... parents need to compete with their children friends. Its tough competition. Invite their friends in your home.  Pray tgtr and pray alone, let your son see that! That will impact him. 

7 secret of happy marriage - article Parents need to be parents...and as best friends... parents need to compete with their children friends. Its tough competition. Invite their friends in your home.  Pray tgtr and pray alone, let your son see that! That will impact him. 

It's about arms locked tgtr and carry each other forward.  To live our vocation of being man. Man for family, for society 

Thank God for being married You have responsibility, you have purpose  You have a covenant fulfilled from God. You will be fruitful. Men was meant to be happy. We weren't created for problems. We have a helpmate. We have easy thanksgiving to God because we are married. Thank you that you have a spouse. Thank your spouse. Renew it everyday.  We have many excuses not to get married. But we are thankful we got married.  Marriage is itself a thanksgiving. Family is the paradise of God. Men gets initiated when he get married. He was fully a man. His eyes were open. When he saw eve. There is so much more to himself. With her, he comes a community. He becomes bigger. He discover beauty.  Thank her for everything. She's the reason for our being. She gives hope.. thanksgiving is compatible with hope. With love of expectation. And we can make demands. I need you. I need you to help. I am going to ask you for sth else. 

Aristotle 3 types of friendship - utility - pleasure - who share the same virtues: they attract, they grow

1. Foster father  - serve the holy family  - an example of service  2. Model of purity  - lived purity to a heroic degree  3. Model of workman  - generosity of time - work diligently  - lowly craftsman but yet such a noble work that was sanctified to find God  4. Terror of demons - use of his name to invoke demon - even in sleep, he speaks to God 

Militia est vita hominis super terram - life of man on earth is warfare 

Intimacy is made up of three main components: vulnerability, good verbal communication and physical closeness (of which sex is probably only 30 per cent). Get these key ingredients balanced and you will always feel both loved and desired. Vulnerability is all about being open and risking revealing something about yourself. Not surprisingly it is also the hardest intimate quality to achieve. This is because our fear of getting hurt may be almost as strong as our desire for intimacy. So we hold back and build up our defences as an insurance policy against pain.  couples who were good at communicating at the start of their relationship can find their skills evaporating. In the early, heady days of love we never stop talking; we share our opinions on everything from shellfish to Shakespeare. Contrast this with the stress of everyday life, when communication is cut down to the bare essentials – what time you’re back, kids needing money for school – as we cross paths in the kitchen. Alth...

The Love Language Audit  Ask yourself the following questions and pinpoint the last time you used each of the five love languages. 1 When did I last give my partner a compliment? 2 When did I last buy my partner a present without it being a birthday or other special occasion? 3 When did I last take my partner out on a date with just the two of us? 4 When did I last touch my partner in a tender and loving way, without it being a prelude to sex? 5 When did I last do a chore for my partner without having to be asked?

The humility of Jesus: in Bethlehem, in Nazareth, on Calvary. But more humiliation and more self-abasement still in the Sacred Host: more than in the stable, more than in Nazareth, more than on the Cross. That is why I must love the Mass so much ('Our' Mass, Jesus...) (The Way, 533)

We conclude our reflection by entrusting ourselves to the words of St Basil the Great who, in the Homily on Psalm 115, commented on the question and answer contained in the Psalm as follows: “”How shall I make a return to the Lord for all the good he has done for me? The cup of salvation I will take up’. The Psalmist has understood the multitude of gifts he has received from God: from non-existence he has been led into being, he has been formed from the earth and given the ability to reason... he then perceived the economy of salvation to be to the benefit of the human race, acknowledging that the Lord gave himself up to redeem all of us; and he hesitates, searching among all of the goods that belong to him for a gift that might be worthy of the Lord. “How then, shall I make a return to the Lord’? Not sacrifices nor holocausts... but my entire life itself. For this he says: “I will lift up the cup of salvation’, giving the name “cup’ to the suffering of spiritual combat, of resisting s...

Psalm 113 The divine gaze watches over all realities, over all beings, earthly and heavenly. However, his eyes are not arrogant and distant, like that of a cold emperor. The Lord, the Psalmist says, “stoops... to look” (v. 6). 4. In this way, we pass to the last part of the Psalm (cf. vv. 7-9), which moves the attention from the heights of the heavens to our earthly horizon. The Lord attentively stoops down towards our littleness and poverty, which drives us to withdraw in fear. He looks directly, with his loving gaze and his real concern, upon the world’s lowly and poor: “From the dust he lifts up the lowly, from his misery he raises the poor” (v. 7).  God bends down, therefore, to console the needy and those who suffer; this word finds its ultimate wealth, its ultimate meaning in the moment in which God bends over to the point of bending down, of becoming one of us, one of the world’s poor. He bestows the greatest honour on the poor, that of sitting “in the company of princes, ye...

misunderstanding From the Beltrame Quattrocchi family  «Opposing opinions, heated discussions, and even friction did not lack. Maria was not easily swayed, and arguing with her to change her mind was not easy. In those moments, Luigi may have felt distressed and nervous, while Maria seemed aggressive. But this never lasted long and prompt requests for forgiveness brought back serenity. They succeeded in implementing fraternal correction, welcoming the thoughts of the other with openness and humility»28. Maria herself wrote: «One’s own perfection [...] is achieved through friction and contrast, because only in this way can the roughness be smoothed out, metal be purified of its debris, and the intrinsic value of each person be brought to light [...]. Holiness consists of one’s personal and bitter labor»29. «I know of souls who, had they not had that friction which never lacks in those who tend to the very high, they would never have risen» From Sanctae Familiae

Back is the way forward—as T. S. Eliot so rightly insisted—but back as awake beings, exercising the proper choice of awake beings, instead of back to sleep:  We shall not cease from exploration  And the end of all our exploring  Will be to arrive where we started  And know the place for the first time.  Through the unknown, remembered gate  When the last of earth left to discover  Is that which was the beginning;  At the source of the longest river The voice of the hidden waterfall  And the children in the apple-tree  Not known, because not looked for  But heard, half-heard, in the stillness  Between two waves of the sea.  Quick now, here, now, always—  A condition of complete simplicity (Costing not less than everything)  And all shall be well and  All manner of things shall be well  When the tongues of flames are in-folded  Into the crowned knot of fire  And the fire and the rose are one....

Virtue  Vir = man Manliness is virtue itself  Human virtue is not enough. We need Jesus christ

To let go, to release - shame, professional prestige To be more open - to meet other men

Only man could conceive of the rack, the iron maiden and the thumbscrew. Only man will inflict suffering for the sake of suffering. That is the best definition of evil I have been able to formulate. Animals can’t manage that, but humans, with their excruciating, semi-divine capacities, most certainly can.  - Jordan Peterson

If there is no risk for failing, there is no hope for success. Our Lord puts us in disparity, to take a leap of faith, to be on a journey. Marriage is a leap of faith. We take that risk because he loves and we accept and trust in that disparity cause God will bridge it.  The disparity between start and end. There is a God factor. Possumus, Yes we can. Difference between love and in love. In love, we fly, we dream, we dare to take risk

Punctuality in small things will translate in capability in making big decisions 

The foundation of Opus Dei spiritual life  - father was in rapture, in ecstasy  Aspects: 1. Not just a son, but a tyke - a playful son, cheeky, daring.  - dare to use the sonship  - show us the father and we shall be satisfied.  -  2. A father initiates the son - marked by succession to take over the Father to carry the family line - handing on his own ideals 3. Father is so close to strengthen and accompanying  - nth comes close to that love See things w eyes of the father - the benevolence - the strong manly strength - if u want, I also want  3Ps - protector > from evil - provider > to give abundantly - procreation > to give us life Zoe We can achieve whatever the father wants  - we can ask whatever we want Maybe we don't dare to ask