relationship advice

Here are ten pieces of relationship advice that everyone needs to hear: 

1. Never keep score in love. Scoreboards are for sports games, not marriages. 

2. Maintain interests and passions separate from your partner’s. Marriage should not be the end of individuality.

3. It can’t always be fifty-fifty. Sometimes it will be ninety-ten; sometimes it will be ten-ninety. All that matters is that it adds up to one hundred.

4. One man said, “Never stop dating. I’m ninety-nine and still courting my wife!” Marriages don’t get boring; you stop trying.

5. No one has ever argued their way to a happy marriage. When facing a challenge, face it together. 

6. You cannot take care of your partner if you aren’t taking care of yourself. Make a list of your daily needs to feel good and have your partner do the same. Make sure you and your partner are able to do the things on that list. 

7. Never involve nonprofessional third parties (parents, friends, siblings, coworkers) in disagreements. You’ll forget about it, but they won’t. 

8. Your spouse should always take priority over your birth family.

9. Remember that when the two feel in conflict. Complementarity is just as important as compatibility. Allow each other the space to lead within different domains in your relationship. 

10. Your love is yours. Forget the approval of others. You won’t be able to make everyone happy. Accept that and embrace each other.