decide
The ethymology of deciding is to "cut off". When we decide something, we cut off everything else. When we get married, we cut off romance with everyone else except our wife.
involvement
In our relationships with others, we cannot just be present. We need to be involved. Being present is like being a Scarecrow in the field, useless in preventing the birds from gnawing at the fruits. We need to be involved, actively, protecting and assuring those around us that we are not only just present, but active to help, to walk, to give.
Comments