children in marriage

I've heard one of my friend sharing: I don't want to have kids when I marry. I don't feel like having kids. 

This thought is really unheard of in the early centuries of humanity. It stems from the mindset that I can choose what I want, and not think about anyone else. 

The basis of having children, apart from it being a fruit of love, total self giving love, made flesh, is that it is sanctified. For God became man by being a babe. He became one of us, through the love of parents. He did not appear, but he came from a family. Jesus Christ blessed with his entire being by starting the cycle of life, through the love of his father and mother, in the purest way possible, that God who saw it, entrusted His child within.

Why did God enter Earth through that? Because marriage is holy. And the fruit of marriage is God, because the fruit of marriage is love. To say you don't want to have kid is saying you don't want God. And that's the reality of it. If Mary said No, I don't want to have kids, if Mary thought of herself only, if Mary did not love Joseph enough to entrust herself and her child to him, then it will make sense to say No to children, and the greatest miracle on Earth would not happen. 

All who say yes to love says yes to children, for bearing a child is bearing God within. All who says Yes, says Yes to the continuum of history, say Yes to God entering mankind's history to be one of us, and says Yes to own own history, our lineage, that we are more than ourselves. We are our father's son. And we will be a father's child.